Frustrated and Confused

This may seem hypocritical at first, but bear with me while I sort myself out.

Why is it that whiny, long facebook status posts are frowned upon for some people, but other people can not only totally get away with it, they get comments and likes and everything?

Or do I just save my whining and carrying-on for here? I mean, we all like to air our dirty laundry in various ways whether we admit it or not. People journal (classic), livejournal or blog, write semi-autobiographical coming of age novels, make horrendous movies about a Mary Sue, write Mary-Sue fan fiction and much more. If I can carry on here, some people feel they can carry-on on facebook without worry.

Maybe I'm crazy but I think there are some things you just don't do on facebook and other social networking sites. For example, I don't use people's actually names on this blog and some stuff I don't even talk about here, lest someone I know in real life find this who doesn't read this blog. I want to vent my feelings, not cause people to possibly lose jobs in the future.

But there are people who seriously whine all the time. EVERY single post they make is something like, "my life is terrible. I hate this. This sucks." I understand that sometimes things just don't go your way, but really, people make it seem like NOTHING GOOD happens to them, when you know they are just want all attention on themselves because that's what they do.

I'm not saying something I should, that might make me a little less self-righteous and a little more vindicated in my feelings, but perhaps a little evil for even bringing it up. See, I'm too nice to even  bring up something terrible about someone I really hate and have every right to bring it up. Here it is in the fairest way possible:

The person in question is a drama-whore (Bear with me on the fairness, it's coming). I'm trying to use non indicative gender cues, but I don't think it's working. Everything must be about them, and if anyone has any other 'drama' or REAL things happening to them they are quick to comment how they've gone through something terribly similar and go into minute detail about a story that may be only tangentially related to the original story. These were things I noticed while we were still friends.

The thing that crossed the line, wasn't when we had a public fight. I was ready to walk right past that. Fights happen and I am more mature than to let a fight get between me and a friend stop us. In fact, I apologized to the person about the entire situation almost immediately after it happened, both via a mutual friend and an email that I know she received, because they replied in length. In the email the person accused me of faking depression (or at least the incredibly depressed feelings I've fought with because I've never been officially diagnosed) that crossed a line from friend to jerk. The fall out of this fight isolated me for the rest of my senior year, a WONDERFUL time to feel isolated let me tell you.

So yeah, I'm biased when this person whines up and down her facebook like she has absolutely nothing going for them. I've talked with other friends and they agree when they say she needs attention constantly on her.

But back to the original reason for this post, is it acceptable to whine in front of all your real life friends like that? Especially if it is just for attention?

Is it any more acceptable to whine here? Or Twitter? Or writing semi-autobiographical fiction?

Why am I writing these questions? If a blogger posts a question but no one follows her is there a sound?